Relationship expert shares her three-step plan for overcoming rejection — from realizing it’s not personal to viewing it as a “diversion”
- The relationship expert shared some tips to help you deal with rejection
- Paige Moyce, a dating coach originally from the UK, often offers advice on TikTok
- In a recent clip, she spoke about rejection, and while it’s part of life, it feels bad
- However, she said there are strategies you can use to ease the pain of rejection
A relationship coach outlined some of the strategies you can use to deal with the discomfort of rejection — from realizing it’s not always personal to talking positively to yourself.
Paige Moyce, a relationship and dating coach from the UK, shared tips on the topic in a recent video on TikTok.
In the video, titled How to Overcome Rejection, she spoke about how rejection is a part of life, but it’s still a painful thing to deal with.
A relationship coach spoke about rejection and suggested strategies for dealing with the disappointment and sting of rejection when dating (stock image)
According to Paige, rejection can affect your self-esteem. She also notes that disappointment is also a big factor because we usually feel rejected for wanting a relationship to work.
The three-step plan to overcome rejection
1. Accepting rejection isn’t always personal
2. Think of rejection as a redirect
3. Talk to yourself in a positive light after experiencing rejection
In the video, she said: “How can you start to get over it? Step one is accepting that rejection isn’t always personal. Often we take rejection and we take it inside, we internalize it wholeheartedly and tear ourselves apart over it.
“It’s okay to feel rejected. It’s not negative, it doesn’t harm your character, it doesn’t harm who you are.
“Rejection is a part of life and while it doesn’t feel good, it’s okay to feel rejected. You don’t have to bury that emotion. It’s OK. You are human.’
Her second strategy was to redefine the way we see rejection. She explained, “We often see rejection as something very negative. And it’s okay to feel that way.
“But really, rejection is just a diversion. When we feel rejected or have been rejected, it’s just a detour or a path… When we stop seeing rejection as the end of the road and see it as a small left turn onto a new road.
“We actually start to see it in a positive light, and that gets us out of the dark hole that we can put ourselves in when we feel like we’ve been rejected.”
Third, according to Paige, people should “start talking to each other [themselves] how [they] talk to [their] Friends’.
According to dating coach Paige Moyce (pictured), while rejection is difficult to deal with, there are strategies you can use to make it easier
“If your girlfriend feels rejected or has been rejected, you wouldn’t tear her apart,” she says in the video.
“You wouldn’t point out flaws you thought you had. You wouldn’t bother with the negatives. You try to pick her up. So do this to yourself. Talk to yourself like you would your friend.
“Write down the things you like about yourself. Write down the achievements you’ve made, write down what you’re proud of. And when that rejection creeps in, remember, remember who you are and your self-worth.
Paige’s final strategy for dealing with rejection is “not to surround yourself with someone who doesn’t make you feel good.”
She says, “When you’re feeling rejected or have been rejected, the last thing you need is to have negative energy.
“So set your limits. Stay around people who lift you up, lift you up, and know that it’s totally okay to feel whatever you’re feeling.