The romance between the participants of the Big brother Brazil Gabriel Tavares and Bruna Griphao has sparked discussions on social media. Some netizens point out that the behavior of the 24yearold boy is related to the actress violent. This Sunday the 22nd, the presenter Thaddeus Schmidt decided to intervene and warn the reality show contestants about the aggressiveness that’s present in dating the two.
Bruna and Gabriel already started dating at the first party of this edition of the program, which took place last Thursday the 18th. Friction, which the two usually take as a joke.
Gabriel complains that the actress keeps interrupting him when he’s talking and that she’s “clingy.” Sometimes he even did aggressive way, holding Bruna’s shoulders. He made some too insults to them in a joking tone.
According to psychoanalyst Natália Marques, a specialist in romantic relationships, aggressiveness is one of the symptoms of abusive relationships. “This aggression can be both verbal and physical and can often be justified as a joke, causing confusion in the victim. “Am I exaggerating and is it just a joke?” ‘Am I the one annoying because I’m into it?’” she says.
After Tadeu’s speech, Bruna and Gabriel talked and explained not remembering or recognizing the problematic settings. Gabriel said he felt bad about the situation, that that kind of attitude didn’t do justice to his character and that he owed Bruna’s family an apology. The actress explained that it wasn’t his fault alone and that the The biggest problem in the relationship is the lack of dialogue. So they decided to leave.
After the fallout from the case and Tadeu’s speech on the live program, the Former reality show contestant Emily Araújo, who suffered an abusive relationship in the home in the 2017 edition, took a stand. “Congratulations Globo for doing what you should have done in 2017… That way Bruna doesn’t have to go through 4+ years of therapy trying to overcome mental and physical aggression like I did,” he said.
Even before the Sunday program aired, Bruna’s father posted a story on Instagram calling Gabriel an abusive. The actress’ team then issued a note stating that “unrelated rude and aggressive remarks are to be heard from another person.”
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Official communication from Bruna Gripao’s team regarding the abusive relationship between the actress and contestant Gabriel. Photo: Playback/ Instagram: @brunagripao
Cash 6 Common Behaviors in Abusive Relationships and the psychoanalyst’s tips for dealing with such situations.
One of the most common characteristics of an abusive relationship, according to Natália, is insult. You can pass by aggressive or joking and have the strength long term undermine the selfesteem of the offended personmaking her feel more and more attached to her abusive partner, believing no one else would accept her for who she is.
The expert ensures that the behavior, even as a joke, creates psychological damage in the offended partner, especially when it comes to women, since they tend to have selfesteem problems anyway due to the machismo that prevails in society.
At BBB, Gabriel insulted Bruna, often in front of other contestants and jokingly. He even said that the actress looked like a “tick” for not letting go of him, and in one of the episodes he compared Bruna’s nose to the beak of a blue macaw and the horn of a rhinoceros.
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In an abusive relationship, aggressiveness can not only be expressed in insults, but also in physical contacts and attitudes, says the psychologist. The aggressive character of the partner can also appear hits the wall, shouting, bribery or indeed Block and unblock partners on social media all the time.
In more than a moment, Gabriel held Bruna’s arms so she would stop interrupting him or forcing her to do what he wanted. While the tone is sometimes a joke and Bruna doesn’t object, these attitudes can be seen as warning signs.
3. Lack of constructive dialogue
One of the pillars of a healthy relationship is dialogue, and on the other hand, the lack of it is a sign of a toxic relationship. The psychoanalyst explains that both parties must be willing to do this talk and listen to each other in a peaceful way. In your opinion, the couple should try to solve the problems and not only defend or accuse, but always want to be right.
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“Within a healthy relationship, there is uncomfortable dialogue but never violent arguments. So it’s important that we recognize that difference between discussing the relationship, the famous DR, and a violent fight,” he says. “It’s necessary to build a dialogue where everyone reflects on their responsibilities and their mistakes and change something from there.”
Before Tadeu’s speech, Bruna searched for Gabriel to try and talk about the rude attitude he had towards her, even mentioning that it might be frowned upon by the show’s viewers. However, the contestant neither apologized for his actions nor listened to Bruna.
Gabriel defended himself, asserting his point of view and saying what could actually damage his image is not his own attitudes, but Bruna’s accusatory statements. In the end, the actress apologized to him.
4. Loss of individuality
Over time, the person who is the victim of abuse tends to lose your individuality and even the change your personality, emphasizes Natalia. This happens mainly due to the constant insults he receives.
“The person can become calmer, move away from friends and stop doing things they used to enjoy doing, in order to mold themselves to their partner’s expectations,” explains the psychoanalyst. At the same time, people are prone to it because of low selfesteem, manipulation, and passion overestimate the abusive partnerassuming he “knows more” and “is better”.
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In some conversations with fellow reality show contestants, Bruna showed some dependency and an overrated view of Gabriel. She said she was constantly concerned about her boyfriend’s potential expulsion, even saying he “can’t go” because he’s “essential to the game”.
Bruna “Gabriel can’t go, he’s very important for the game”
Larissa “Everyone is important for the game”
Bruna “he moves more than we do”
Larissa “everyone moves”
*everyone agrees with her* lol aiai#BBB23 pic.twitter.com/GRkPv2sOYY— BBB23 (@KingBBB23) January 22, 2023
5. People around the couple feel uncomfortable
“It’s very common when we’re in an abusive relationship to make people around us feel uncomfortable. There are several dynamics that cause this annoyance. For example, many people remember couples of friends arguing every time they go out, which causes uneasiness in the whole group,” says Natália.
In most cases, people are so engrossed in the relationship and in love they don’t notice the harmful behavior, emphasizes the expert. Yet, Anyone looking from the outside can see signs of trouble.
Although Bruna and Gabriel say they don’t feel like they’re in a toxic relationship, other program participants have already shown some level of discomfort with their relationship. In one episode, contestant Cara de Sapato said they were a “boring couple.” Bruna’s friend Larissa Santos also warned the actress a number of times that she was getting lost in the game because of the relationship.
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6. There are manipulations and a person always feels guilty about everything
Manipulation is an important symptom of an abusive relationship, says Natália. “It’s common for there to be a dynamic where the victim complains about something about the partner and they react in a way that blames it on the victim,” he says.
The abusive person tends to justify your aggressiveness with the attitudes that you find disturbing in your partnerfor example always evade their responsibility. This, in turn, causes the abused person to feel confused and guilty for the abuse they have suffered.
Shortly after Tadeu’s speech, Gabriel called Bruna to speak to her, and before apologizing for what the presenter had mentioned — a moment where he threatened to hit the actress with his elbow — he said that she should say publicly that he was not insulting her.
The stance was seen as manipulation by netizens. In the same conversation and in others, Bruna said she felt guilty about the public’s interpretation of Gabriel.
How do I get out of an abusive relationship?
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According to the psychoanalyst, the best way is to leave or avoid an abusive relationship selfconsciousnesswhich can be done with the help of psychotherapy.
The person who is or is prone to abuse needs to find out why they tend to be passive in abusive situations. At the same time, the perpetrator must understand where his aggressive and manipulative traits come from, emphasizes the expert.
After selfknowledge is the second step Start a process build a healthy dialogue solve communication noise. Gradually, the two must give in to adjust behaviors so that both feel comfortable in the relationship.
Because of the characteristics of society, women are generally the abused and men are the abusers, but these roles can be reversed. Additionally, it’s not just heterosexual relationships that are abusive. Couples of all genders and sexual orientations can face the problem.
How to help someone who is in an abusive relationship?
Natália points out that being very direct with someone who is in an abusive relationship may not be the best way to go. This is because realizing that you are in such a situation can be a difficult, slow and painful process.
The psychoanalyst recommends this to friends Make small comments, always private, so that the abused person pays attention to what is happening. Likewise, it’s possible to mention that this abusive friend’s attitude isn’t nice, and explain why.
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The friends You should not let down the person who is in an abusive relationship. “Often friends get tired and irritated because the person doesn’t seem to want to see. But this can be damaging as the person ends up becoming more and more lonely and immersed in the abusive relationship,” says Natália.